Star athletes from a powerhouse high school athletic program, a sexual assault that occurred in the middle of a party full of witnesses who knew exactly what was going on but did nothing, underage drinking, online rumors. While the sexual assault of an 18-year-old Georgia high school senior by three of her classmates could have easily become another Steubenville-esque embarrassment, local authorities have filed serious charges against the three men who participated in the assault, and have promised that more serious charges are forthcoming.
- Women with disabilities are at least twice as likely to be victims of domestic violence and sexual assault than women without disabilities.
- Women with disabilities experience abuse that lasts longer and is more intense than women without disabilities.
- Women with disabilities are less likely to report domestic violence or sexual assault. Approximately 70% - 85% of abuse against people with disabilities goes unreported.
- Studies estimate that 80% of women with disabilities have been sexually assaulted.
- One study showed that 47% of sexually abused women with disabilities reported assaults on more than ten occasions.
- Another study found that only 5% of reported crimes against people with disabilities were prosecuted, compared to 70% for serious crimes committed against people with no disabilities.
- Women with disabilities are often perceived to be weak, unwanted or asexual, making us more vulnerable to sexual violence.
- Some attackers have stated that they considered it a “favor” to rape and/or sexually assault women and girls with disabilities because they thought no one else would have sex with us, that we could not have sex otherwise, or they didn’t even view us as human beings.
- Abuse has a more severe negative effect on the self-esteem of women with physical disabilities than those without disabilities.
- Many women with disabilities have fewer economic resources, thereby increasing the risk of abuse.
- Women with disabilities face limited options for escaping abusive situations and accessing battered women’s programs.
- Women with disabilities are women too. Our voices, our thoughts, our bodies, and our lives matter.
We need to confront the virulent sexism and violence our culture is steeped in—and the institutions and social relations that generate them.
… In reality, women are told that they can participate in public life, but they must do so on profoundly unequal terms. When they run up against barriers to full participation—like sexual harassment and violence or simply the impossible choices posed by the demands of home and work—they are told this is their own individual problem. The victim-blaming that is so hideous and obvious in cases of sexual assault and rape is not confined to this along—it exists in all realms of women’s lives, and serves to place the blame on them for all of the diminished expectations they face.
This dynamic of liberation delinked from actual equality has profoundly shaped understandings of sexuality today.
One of the aspirations of the women’s liberation movement was sexual freedom for women. But without a corresponding rise in the social and economic status of women, the liberalization of sexual attitudes has not advanced the ability of women to control their own sexual lives. On the contrary, it has allowed the market to invade, commodify and transform this most intimate aspect of our lives.
… Contrary to the post-feminist fairytales about how women are now the new dominant class, real-life women have seen their economic situation worsen.
They remain concentrated in traditionally gendered jobs that are low-paying and insecure. Almost 60 percent of families headed by a single mother live in poverty. And the decline of social supports—from the destruction of welfare programs to reductions in food stamps and cutbacks in child care services—have made the situation of women and their children even more precarious.
When women are economically dependent and face worsening poverty without partners, they are even more vulnerable to gender-based violence.
Half of women on welfare have suffered some kind of sexual or physical abuse. Almost a third of homeless families are homeless as a direct result of domestic violence. Women who suffer from domestic violence find their work lives violently disrupted—victims lose more than 8 million days of paid work each year as a result. This only worsens the cycle of economic dependency.
Even when intimate partner violence isn’t present, economic inequality makes it impossible for the majority of women to have any real autonomy over their lives. When a woman’s life chances are directly impacted by the ability to secure and maintain a partner, this constrains the choices she can make and shapes interpersonal relationships in subtle, but very real ways.
These dynamics are driven by powerful social forces that flow from the top of our society. The worsening of conditions and tightening of control over women’s lives has gone hand in hand with an ideological strengthening of some of the most reactionary ideas about women. Thus—to return to the point made above—if we are going to talk about culture, we need to understand it as something that grows out of these material economic, political and social realities.
i’m sorry, what?! what in the fuck does “love” have to do with the male supremacist movement, i.e., misogyny, i.e., so-called “men’s rights activism”?! that movement has as much to do with genuine love as the KKK has to do with racial equality.
or rather, if you think LOVE means women being oppressed to the point where they are obligated to fuck every guy that is lonely lest he kill them, then your conception of LOVE is really really really fucking warped.
oh yeah, and we’re done communicating. peace.
A couple things I really appreciate about the #AllMenCan framing: First, while some of the men who submitted images to PolicyMic use the language of “real men,” the hashtag itself doesn’t. I get the desire to claim to “real man” label … But, honestly, I’m done with that. I’m done with any attempts to recruit male allies that appeal to a protector role or reinforce hierarchies of masculinities. Don’t be a “real man” — be a goddamn person. All of you.
Here is what I think of the misogynistic, proto-fascist hordes that comprise the so-called “men’s rights” [aka, male supremacist] movement:
"Despair has raised them to their feet; [misogyny] has given them a banner. Everything that should have been eliminated from the national organism in the form of cultural excrement in the course of the normal development of society has now come gushing out from the throat; capitalist society is puking up the undigested barbarism. Such is the physiology of ["Men’s Rights Activism"]" - adapted from Leon Trotsky, “What Is Fascism?” (1933)
The fact that he was never actually outright “rejected” and simply expected girls to just come to him wanting to fuck him makes this even more pathetic.
even more scary too, knowing sickos like these might silently build up anger towards you without you ever doing anything to them or even noticing them
It terrifies me to think of someone becoming enraged just because I, as a woman, exist in his vicinity and am not paying attention to him. The manifesto was rife with examples of times he was sitting in silence and begrudging all the women around him for not throwing themselves at the lonely quiet dude sitting in the corner staring daggers at him. There was one point where he said he was sitting in the cafeteria, not talking to anyone. He said something like, “I didn’t go up to any women because I knew they would reject me. Women are so cruel.”
He didn’t give women an active chance to reject him. They would have been completely justified in doing so, but he didn’t. He didn’t even approach women. He felt like he deserved sex just for existing.
So yeah, no, he wasn’t “rejected by women.” He felt entitled to women despite putting no effort whatsoever (beyond driving a nice car and having nice clothes) into meeting a real human woman.
yeah, see, this is MUCH better than the odious “Real Men Don’t … ” meme favored by politicians and the Hollywood glitterati.
What we are experiencing is the violent but logical conclusion of the decades-long right-wing backlash that arose in the wake of the women’s liberation movement of the 60s and 70s. Especially once the feminist movement gave up on the street protests, mass activist organizations, and bold actions; ever since, the right-wing has been whipping up a misogynist frenzy, trying to blame everything from poverty to the national debt on feminism in particular and women in general.
I’ve been reading about the period immediately following the passage of the federal amendment granting women the right to vote in 1920. The following two decades saw a strikingly similar backlash arise in the growth of various intellectuals and “activists” fulminating over the evils of “feminism” and “female supremacy”, blaming the women’s suffragists and rights movement for everything from causing the Great Depression to the decline in American culture.
Capitalist inequality and oppression may run through various cycles, with a victory against a particular manifestation of oppression here and there; but the problem is, that victory can always be rolled back and invariably is no sooner won than it is immediately subject to seemingly indefatigable attack from forces of reaction and ignorance. What we need is not just temporary victories, temporary concessions, temporary amelioration of the worst excesses of the system’s oppressiveness; but the utter and definitive conquest and abolition of the prevailing socio-economic order, along with the attendant inequality, exploitation, and oppression which it relies upon and fosters.
You say not all men are monsters?
Imagine a bowl of M&Ms. 10% of them are poisoned.
Go ahead. Eat a handful.
Not all M&Ms are poison.
What kind of society locks up thousands of people every year for committing the victimless “crime” of using non-lethal drugs; yet won’t lift a finger to lock up bigots, white supremacists, and misogynists who publicly support violence against oppressed people?
Now, I’m not saying that someone should necessarily be locked up simply for saying bigoted things. But I do think it’s worth pointing out the obvious racial, gender, and economic inequalities in the way this country deals with the imprisonment and punishment of certain segments of the population as against others.
To wit, I’ve noticed that privileged white men and right-wingers have no problem when it comes to locking up people of color for committing no crime whatsoever; but when it comes to the question of actually attaching consequences to the vile hate speech currently spewed with impunity by the former ilk, then all of a sudden these people become concerned about America becoming a police state.
Mental illness and depression do not cause people to want to go out and kill a bunch of women because they think they are entitled to their bodies. Sexism and misogyny do that.
Advice to men who feel compelled to keep repeating, “Not all men are like that”: If you really want to prove that not all men are misogynistic pieces of shit, the easiest thing you can do is stop hemming-and-hawing and start condemning the misogynistic violence that certain men DO engage in, without feeling a need to qualify your condemnation.
Apparently the MOTHER of Elliot Rodger, the Isla Vista shooter, had alerted the police exactly ONE MONTH EARLIER that she was concerned about the horribly misogynistic and violent stuff he was saying on his YouTube channel. When the police visited his apartment, they concluded their brief investigation with the following description of him as a “perfectly polite, kind and wonderful human.”
In other words, our society — including the police and courts — sees hatred of women as such a thoroughly normal form of male behavior that the police were able to dismiss his vitriolic misogyny as insufficient grounds for concern.
I’m all for people discussing better gun regulations in the wake of such events, but let’s also talk about better regulation of the clans of extremist bigots in our midst, and better regulation of the police who essentially abide bigotry and violence as long as it is directed at women, poor people, and/or people of color.